Reading this makes me wonder if I owe anything to my father. He and I were never very close, but he always did what he thought was best when raising his children. And even though he did some things that I do not think I can forgive him for, he has admitted he was wrong and desires to have a relationship with me. It just seems hard to care now that my parents are divorced and he is not part of my life. Is it wrong to make the capacity for reciprocity a prerequisite for having (or rekindling) a relationship with someone?